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I must admit I have been a bit reluctant to write about appearances. I don’t want this blog to turn into a male version of Cosmopolitan and all. It’s an important subject though, and it will improve your game. I’ll thus keep it short and to the point.

Looking good is quite easy for guys. Yet at the same time, most get it completely wrong. Bad haircuts, smelly breath, ill-fitting clothes in just the wrong color. Lets just say it doesn’t help. The point is, I think, to make sure your appearance compliments your personality. To get it right means paying attention to some points, making a choice that suits you, and then get on with your life. Here’s the basics.

Clothes

Being well-dressed comes down to paying attention to color, proportion and patterns. Clothes should fit you well and be in colors that match you. Colors look different on different people, and paying attention to which colors suit you makes shopping a lot easier. Here’s a book I recommend, it helps you determine what your color scheme is and what kind of stuff then suits you:

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The book also helps you determine what kind of clothes best suit your figure. Should you tuck your shirt in or not? It’s all about proportion, and once you’ve seen how this works, you’ll wonder how you ever missed it.

The first piece of clothing to buy, if you don’t have it already, is a well-fitted (tailored) white shirt. The best are made by Thomas Pink, but really, you can’t go wrong with a white shirt.

Fashion is important for girls. Paying attention to clothes yourself will make it easier to notice what a girl is wearing, and what it says about her. Extravagantly, sexy, simple, black and white, lot’s of accessories or not, creative or standard, well fitted or careless. Commenting on clothes as a conversation starter can work very well. It shows you pay attention to these things, and works as a compliment.

For further reading, pick up an Esquire every now and then, or read books like “Dressing the Man”, “Men’s Style” or Esquire’s “The Handbook of Style”.

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Grooming:

It all comes down to paying attention to the little things. Make sure your hair looks good – don’t use too much gel or wax, make sure it’s touchable without having to wash your hands. Get a haircut and ask for advice. Catch some sunshine if your skin is very white. If you wear glasses, do they look cool? Think about getting contact lenses – you can get daily contact lenses now which are no hassle and are very cheap as well. Check out your face from up close – do you look healthy? Remove excess hair, eat healthy, see a dermatologist if you have serious problems.

Make sure you smell nice – get some nice eau de toilette, but don’t use a lot of it. Anything by Hugo Boss or Armani I can recommend. Brush your teeth, use mouthwash, don’t eat smelly food before you go out.

Posture

Finally, posture. Everybody knows good posture is important and shows confidence, so I’m not going to repeat it here. Oh shit, I just did. Well, look it up, pay attention and fix your posture once and for all.

Getting this stuff right is really easy, it’s no rocket surgery or anything, and it doesn’t have to cost a lot of time or money. It will improve your life in many ways: looking well-groomed and well-dressed has a positive effect on many aspects of life.

After years and years or careful study and experimenting, I’ve discovered the magic formula to dating. Or actually, it’s just common sense and I just made it up. But anyway, this shit works, bitches – let me lay it down for you.

Success in dating relies on three things: How many (interesting, available) girls you meet, how attractive you are and how effective you are to close the deal and get a date. Wow, that’s simple stuff isn’t it? And for all you uglies out there: with attractive I also mean: interesting, smart, funny, etc – how likeable you are.

To judge your current dating level, score yourself on these three levels.

How many girls do you meet:
0 – I live with my mum and work with just guys, spare time spent masturbating to Tomb Raider
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3 – Go out now and then, but mostly get very drunk, some girls at work but they’re too stupid, play soccer and watch sports in spare time
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7 – Play tennis or hockey (or some other sports that girls also like), have some hot female collegues / classmates, go out and have a large group of friends that include lots of hot girls
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10 – I teach salsa class, teach English literature at an all-girls college and live on campus

How attractive are you?
1 – Depressed, ugly, have no interesting hobbies, mum picks clothes
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3 – Dress ‘normal’, do some sports and went to Germany once, average looks, average hobbies
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7 – Own a sailboat, own more than two white shirts, lived abroad, IQ above 120, look good, you’re always positive and happy to try something new
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10 – Your smile alone will make panties drop. You give style advice to George Clooney, have a pet Narwhal, black belt karate, look like the love baby of Brad Pitt and Tom Cruise.

How good are you at getting dates?
So you meet a girl you like, she might be interested in you… what happens is:
1 – You wet your pants, sit in a corner and cry
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3 – You wait for her do drop at least 3 hints, then trough some awkward asking and a lot of luck, you may remember 7 digits of her phone number which you forgot to write down
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7 – Maybe with some help of alcohol or luck, you usually get a date with a girl you like, but there are some that just got away because you missed the opportunity
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10 – You never fail to seal the deal, you’re so much a natural expert at this that you end up asking phone numbers for your friends dates as well.

Now to round up this little test Cosmopolitan style: multiply your scores, add 12, carry the 1, add all digits until your score is under 26, then find the letter in the alphabet that corresponds to that letter.

Knowing where you stand in the magic formula is knowing what you need to improve. All these three areas are relatively simple to improve. You have to find your own way, you may need some practice and some help, but it’s all very do-able. It’s no rocket surgery, right?