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I love this dialogue. Kurt Russel as Stuntman Mike in Death Proof.

Not to over-analyze this stuff, but check out the story-telling, the emotional detachment (well, he is a psycho killer after all) , the ‘I know how you work’ and the challenging.

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Tom Waits hitting on a HOT chick at a party. Watch and learn. It does not get better than this.

(pic links to youtube video)

Waits: “You know I’m a doctor”

Waits: “I do, ah… laser hair removal, I do… acupuncture, I do… aromatherapy, that type of thing”

Waits: “Would you like something sweet?” (offers sweets) “Go ahead, take one”

Waits: “Wadda ya say we… go back to your place and eh… talk?”

Hot babe: “My roommate’s there”

Waits: “Bonus.”

Hot babe: “You’re a rascal” … winks.

When meeting new people, sometimes you are just ‘on’ and psyched, you click and exciting conversation just seems to flow naturally. And sometimes, well, it seems to take effort, long pauses, you know what I mean. This ususally happens when you meet someone unexpected – when you’re just minding your own business, walking the dog or doing groceries.

How come some people seem to be so natural in simple conversations, a little smalltalk – any time of the day? Well either you’re a natural, or you need some practice. It’s not as difficult how it sounds: when interacting with strangers, it’s never required to be original. Just have one subject, appropriate for the situation and you’re good to go. The article below from David Wygant offers some inspiration: Obvious is good.

Many people, when they’re unhappy about a certain part of their life, start focusing on details. Switching to Diet Cokes if they’re fat, drinking green tea when they’re stressed or stop buying latte’s when they’re spending too much.

These kind of things may feel like action, but they won’t amount to anything – and are thus an utter waste of time and energy. It’s true that you must start with a single small step, but it must be a single step on a real, bigger, bolder course.

The real fixes are either silver bullets or quick fixes, or ‘real’ proper solutions. You may have a tendency to dislike quick fixes, or be too lazy to really change your ways and implement a proper fix. Me, I don’t care about the distinction because it’s useless – a fix is a fix. Whether you lose weight trough changing your diet and exercising, or trough the quick-fix of a stomach reduction, as long as you shed your chubbiness, it’s fine and dandy.

When looking at the dating game, it crucial to look at the big picture. To get better at this, it will require effort and energy, it requires you to stop being a victim, to stop being in control, to move out of your comfort zone. Now you better make sure that you apply this energy in the right area, in bold moves toward you goals.

What’s the area you suck at most? Instead of thinking Diet Coke / green tea, I urge you to think of a real fix of your problems, and then take action. More concrete ideas and suggestions in later posts.

Californication, starring David Duchovny is hands down the best thing on tv right now.

”Nobody likes you, you’re ugly and your mother dresses you funny. Now smile, you douche.”

If you’ve never seen it, may I suggest you sample its delights as soon as possible. It’s funny, extremely well written, has great music and is just very well filmed. The world would be a better place if we all looked a little more like Mr Moody. A fucked up place, but better nonetheless.

You can’t snort a line of coke off a woman’s ass and not wonder about her hopes and dreams, it’s not gentlemanly.

So well, there’s a recommendation for you. Here’s a clip if you’re still not convinced:

David DeAngelo (Wikipedia) is, most probably, an ass. However, sometimes he has some good tips. Looking for some inspiration for first messages to sent when online dating, see below some of his suggestions.

Well, you sound like you might be more than just another pretty face. Something tells me that you’re probably getting about 50 emails a day from loser guys saying things like “Hi, I’m freshly divorced from my seventh wife, have 5 delinquent kids… but the good news is that I have a good chance at finally getting a job…” etc.

In any event, I’m 28, have my life together, and I’m more than the usual amount of interesting and funny, so you’d better like to laugh.  You sound like you might make an interesting friend, so let’s get together for a cup of
something delicious and some interesting conversation… if you think you can handle it, that is!

I was looking through all these ads here on the internet thinking to myself “Look at all the poor, desperate, lonely women…” and then I saw your ad and thought to myself “Hey, here’s a poor, desperate, lonely woman that’s actually CUTE…” so I thought I’d write and see if you’re as interesting on the inside as you are in this picture…

Well, they don’t come much cheesier than those, but still – confident, funny, to the point.

More?

I don’t know about you, but taking advice about dating girls from a gay man does not seem like the greatest plan to me. Though today, that is exactly what we are going to do. Barney Stinson, a character played by Neil Patrick Harris in ‘How I met your mother’ is our guru du jour.

Barney: In my body, where the shame gland should be, there is a second awesome gland.

There’s so much wisdom here, that we’re going to have to come back to Barnabus many, many times. As an introduction, start with this video:

One of the most important lessons from Barney is that you should never, ever, ever, ever-ever lose your self-confidence. Lose your shame. Be awesome without holding back. Always be ‘on’ – positive, psyched, ready for action.That’s the winner mentality:

Being awesome is a choice. It’s a mindset, a way of life. You can’t be half-awesome. You can’t be ‘trying to be’ awesome. The only way to get there is to start pretending to be awesome.

Barney: You know what Marshall needs to do. He needs to stop being sad. When I get sad, I stop being sad, and be AWESOME instead. True story.

To help you get psyched, here’s the ‘get psyched’ playlist as published in The Bro Code.

01 – Bon Jovi – You Give Love A Bad Name
02 – Twisted Sister – I Wanna Rock
03 – Digital Underground – The Humpty Dance
04 – Journey – Don’t Stop Believin’
05 – Joe Esposito – You’re The Best Around
06 – Kiss – Lick It Up
07 – Guns N’ Roses – Paradise City
08 – Rush – Tom Sawyer
09 – Vince DiCola & Stan Bush – The Transformers Theme
10 – Billy Idol – Dancing With Myself
11 – Scorpions – Rock You Like A Hurricane
12 – Styx – Come Sail Away
13 – Lynyrd Skynyrd – Free Bird
14 – Van Halen – Panama
15 – Rick Springfield – Jessie’s Girl
16 – Poison – Talk Dirty To Me
17 – ACDC – Thunder struck
18 – Damn Yankees – High Enough
19 – Naughty By Nature – Hip Hop Hooray
20 – Mötley Crue – Dr. Feelgood
21 – Ratt – Round And Round